Trumpet. Aline. Ballgown. Yes, the choices can be overwhelming. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t HAVE to be this way. Dress shopping can be light hearted, fun and one of your favorite experiences. Modern day shows like “Say Yes to the Dress” and of course, Pinterest make shopping for the perfect gown seem a little intimidating. How will I ever know? I haven’t cried yet, this must mean it’s still out there! Then the added, mom loves this one and you love that one stressor. Continue reading and I will let you in on some of the biggest bridal secrets.

The Appointment Crowd

It’s natural to want all your favorite girls present when shopping for your wedding gown. You want to share laughs, tears, dreams and this once in a lifetime experience; gotcha! However, here’s the thing about bringing a big group: opinions! They love you so they will (probably, maybe, usually?) feel like telling you their truest thoughts (out of love). On the flip side, even if they are a great, quiet bunch, opinions will still probably be a little overwhelming. Most stores have required appointments which means, you can’t necessary take as much time as you want. Weeding through “do you like this one?!” yes and no’s will be time consuming and also, your feelings may tend to get a little lost. Here’s a suggestion: take a small number of close family and friends, 5 tops. Once you have chosen your dress, ask to make another appointment to try it on and this time, bring the second half of the ladies who were not there the first time! Don’t want to hurt any feelings?! The store has a limit of people per appointment 😉

Tears? Or No Tears?

You may bawl your eyes out when you see yourself standing in THE dress. Your heart may overflow with sheer emotion and tissue will be a must. Does everyone cry? Absolutely not. One of the most common thoughts when shopping for gowns in the idea that you need that heart exploding, emotional feeling in order to know it’s the one. This can lead to a number of different stores, appointments and in the end, heartache! You may never cry. Some brides commit to a great dress without a tear but when they step into it on their wedding day, that’s when the emotions kick in. Follow your heart and bring some of your head to make the right decision. You will know in your gut but girl please, don’t wait for the tears!

Models are Models

The dress you have been staring at, dreaming about and crushing on for years is the dress you will wear on your wedding day. Until that is, you try it on and realize, it is so totally wrong for you. Bridal designers are smart, this is their profession so of course each gown is going to be modeled in the perfect, designed just for her, body. Often times, thicker girls will envision a ball gown to help “cover” what they don’t want to show. Thin girls will dream of the fitted gown to show off what they love. I am about to share something with you that will surprise the heck out of most. Mermaid gowns look best on curvy girls because YOU have hips, girl! This is a GREAT blessing to a mermaid or fit n’ flare. Ball gowns look great on thin girls because you girl, will rock it! Now, this doesn’t mean curvy ladies can’t wear ballgowns and slim ladies can’t do mermaids; my point is you will not know the fit that looks best on you until you try gowns on. Go into your appointment(s) with an open mind, willing to try whatever the consultant throws your way! You may be surprised at what you end up feeling confidently beautiful in.

Your Day; Your Dress

It can add some turmoil when your sister, mom, grandma, whoever, fall in love with a different dress then you do. If you are a people pleaser you may be tempted to agree with them because you start to believe they know what’s best or maybe just because, you want to make them happy. Regardless of who is paying for your dress, regardless of who loves it; it is yours! The dress you chose to wear on the most important day of your life sets a tone. It is so symbolic. You will be seeing photos of this very gown, forever! On walls, everywhere! Your children, your grandchildren; they will all want to know about your dress; no pressure! Don’t be afraid to chose the gown that is touching your heart, even if you stand alone in that choice. I can guarantee, your groom will love it as much as you do and on your wedding day, grandma will come around to loving it, too. Oh and when you find your dress, stop looking! It’s like a fiance, ladies; once you commit, don’t go searching more! This will only give you a giant headache.

Have fun with your searching experience. It’s not everyday you can play dress up in pretty dresses that make your feeling like a princess! Always be sure to be kind and respectful to the bridal consultants that work with you, they are pulling and lugging around dresses in hopes to find your dream one. If you are in Illinois, check out my favorite boutique Marien Mae for a wonderful dress experience. Tell them I sent ya and one last time for the ladies in the back; enjoy all the moments!